Long time, no see. Sometimes life gets in the way of other pursuits. Like blogging.

This blog site was never intended to be all about my mother, even though it seems to have turned into that. Then again, this blog is really all about my mother, and countless others just like her who thought they were eating right and doing well by following everything (or most things) their doctor told them to do, only to discover down the line that they have a debilitating illness or condition that could have been prevented by not eating what is suggested by their doctor, nutritionist, or even the ADA.

The outward physical issues began to manifest nearly three years ago, when my mother was 66 years old, and things just seem to keep getting worse: a heart attack, double bypass, fem-fem bypasses, several other types of bypasses, and an amputation of a leg later, my mother lies, at this very moment, in a hospital bed, recovering from surgery to attempt to unblock one of her grafts. Her surgery was Sunday. It was only partially successful. She nearly bled to death on the operating table. Today marks a week since she was admitted.

She had difficulty breathing this morning and was whisked into x-ray and had blood drawn for diagnostic tests. The results came back with the following Dx: Pneumonia. You go to the hospital because you're sick and sometimes end up getting even more sick. Hospital borne infections are not uncommon. Hopefully it is the only one she winds up with during her stay; she has contracted MRSA before, and VRE. She's lucky to have lived through any of it, but even if she gets through this one she is sentenced to pain and suffering for her remaining days on this planet.

She lamented to me today, “I don't know why this has happened to me. I mean, I didn't eat badly anytime during my life.”

To which I replied, “I know you ate what you thought was good, what you were told was good, but it wasn't good for you. Doctors don't get nutrition training in med school. They told you the best they knew. You did the best you knew how to do.”

That's pretty much all I could tell her, because the damage is now done, and it's fairly likely it's too far gone to correct no matter what she eats now. She's diabetic and has horrible Neuropathy and vision issues. She's had several strokes including a brain stem stroke. She has Atherosclerosis and Heart Disease. Her left leg was amputated below the knee because she had no circulation left in her lower limb and dry gangrene set in. She now has a spot of dry gangrene on her pinky toe of her right foot, and her foot is swollen and angry looking. If she lives long enough she will end up a double amputee.

The double heart bypass helped keep her heart beating, but the third artery leading to her heart is 90% blocked, and there isn't a damn thing they can do about that one without killing her.

She's tough, though. She has a will to live like no one else I've known. But that will only get her so far. None of us make it out of here alive. The difference, though, is that we have a choice whether to make our passing a long and painful one, or a quick and painless one. The choice is yours.

It doesn't matter whether you're fat or thin, if you are eating crap you are going to live out your last days in misery. I'd lay money on it, and I'm not a betting woman. But I don't want to do that. I don't want to see anyone suffer. I don't want to see you writhing in pain every time your pain meds wear off, like I see happen to my mother. I don't want your loved ones to feel helpless watching your suffering. Listen to me now, thank me later...

Quit eating grains (wheat, corn, rice, pasta, bread), legumes, starchy vegetables, and sugar (including high sugar fruits). Do not ingest vegetable oils, margarine, or hydrogenated fats. Do not eat at fast food restaurants. Ever.

Eat whole foods. Eat meat, foul, seafood, pork (if it's not against your religion), non-starchy vegetables, low sugar fruits on occasion, and good animal fats like butter, lard, tallow, and the only non-animal fats you should consume should be olive oil and coconut oil.

Get up and move, but if you can't bring yourself to do that, at least eat the way I've stated above. Eventually you will feel like moving again if you do that.

There is no better time to start than now. If you are living and breathing still, just do it. Below are links to help get you started on the path to a better, less painful life.

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